Comments on: How to Make the Tough Decision to Euthanize Your Pet http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/ - yes, dog health problems can be solved! Wed, 01 Feb 2012 11:12:41 +0000 hourly 1 By: deb http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-169745 deb Sun, 23 May 2010 21:02:44 +0000 http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/#comment-169745 Brigitte thank you for your words and understanding; the decision was difficult but now I know that I have made the right decision for Gilbert and I. The website and the words of the members brought me clarity through this period. I willing gave Gilbert all that he ever needed and Gilbert gave me unconditional love. The past year had been troublesome but he deserved all that I was able to bring to him; it was time. Little doubts and guilt will always reside but I imagine that is because of the deep love I felt for him. Brigitte thank you for your words and understanding; the decision was difficult but now I know that I have made the right decision for Gilbert and I. The website and the words of the members brought me clarity through this period. I willing gave Gilbert all that he ever needed and Gilbert gave me unconditional love. The past year had been troublesome but he deserved all that I was able to bring to him; it was time. Little doubts and guilt will always reside but I imagine that is because of the deep love I felt for him.

]]> By: Brigitte Smith http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-169682 Brigitte Smith Sun, 23 May 2010 07:54:49 +0000 http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/#comment-169682 Deb, I was hoping someone else would come up with some encouraging words for you. Perhaps Gilbert's situation is now resolved one way or another. I completely understand your heavy heart. I have experienced a similar situation. I dealt with my situation by telling myself that although my dog may have been taking over my life while she was sick (and dying), I owed it to her to allow her to take over my life for that relatively short period (when compared to her lifetime, or my own). Either way, the decision is very difficult and I don't envy you if you are still grappling with it. Regards, Brigitte Deb,

I was hoping someone else would come up with some encouraging words for you.

Perhaps Gilbert’s situation is now resolved one way or another.

I completely understand your heavy heart. I have experienced a similar situation. I dealt with my situation by telling myself that although my dog may have been taking over my life while she was sick (and dying), I owed it to her to allow her to take over my life for that relatively short period (when compared to her lifetime, or my own).

Either way, the decision is very difficult and I don’t envy you if you are still grappling with it.

Regards,
Brigitte

]]> By: deb http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-164515 deb Sun, 11 Apr 2010 23:54:59 +0000 http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/#comment-164515 My buddy of 15 years has experienced so many life changes with me. Most recently we have tried to adapt to apartment living but Gilbert is not adjusting. He has lost most of is vision, his hips are displacing, and he is sleeping except for bathrooming and eating. Glibert is a rescued at 9 month and has been suffering with separation anxiety all his life, and now that his vision is going it is worsing day by day. Poor little guy (Jack Russell), howls and cry's when there isn't a familiar body close by. I placed him in day care for while I am at work and he isn't socializing very well... So even there he is howling when not sleeping. I am finding that my own quality of life is diminishing because of the limitation that are created by Gilbert's needs. I find myself staying home alone and not living because if I choose to leave, Gilbert stresses out and howls. My heart is weighing heavy, because the thought of ending his life to benefit my own feels extremely selfish, especially since for 14 + years I have given the very best of me and my time! I am also feeling torn of how to continue my own quality of life when Gilbert's needs are increasing and directing my decisions. I am taking the suggestions listed above and listening to feeback. My buddy of 15 years has experienced so many life changes with me. Most recently we have tried to adapt to apartment living but Gilbert is not adjusting. He has lost most of is vision, his hips are displacing, and he is sleeping except for bathrooming and eating. Glibert is a rescued at 9 month and has been suffering with separation anxiety all his life, and now that his vision is going it is worsing day by day. Poor little guy (Jack Russell), howls and cry’s when there isn’t a familiar body close by. I placed him in day care for while I am at work and he isn’t socializing very well… So even there he is howling when not sleeping.
I am finding that my own quality of life is diminishing because of the limitation that are created by Gilbert’s needs. I find myself staying home alone and not living because if I choose to leave, Gilbert stresses out and howls. My heart is weighing heavy, because the thought of ending his life to benefit my own feels extremely selfish, especially since for 14 + years I have given the very best of me and my time! I am also feeling torn of how to continue my own quality of life when Gilbert’s needs are increasing and directing my decisions.
I am taking the suggestions listed above and listening to feeback.

]]> By: Brigitte Smith http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-164403 Brigitte Smith Sat, 10 Apr 2010 23:45:46 +0000 http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/#comment-164403 Diana, Thank you so much for your very helpful and thoughtful comments. Regards, Brigitte Nancy, Thanks for your input also. I have heard that suggestion several times (to tally up the dog's favorite activities, and see how many of them the dog still enjoys). I personally am not a fan of that approach in and of itself. Some dogs seem perfectly content, even though they can no longer do most of what they used to enjoy. After all, when people get elderly, they also can no longer do many of the things they used to enjoy when they were young, but it doesn't necessarily mean they have no, or little, quality of life. If a dog no longer enjoys most of the things he or she used to AND seems unhappy, worried, or uncomfortable, then yes, it may be time to think about the option of euthanasia. But a dog can be bed-bound pretty much as Diana describes above - where the dog can no longer get up by themselves and become completely incontinent of urine and faeces - but still seem content overall. In those circumstances, I believe it is perfectly valid to decide to allow nature to take its course and allow the dog to pass away without intervention. I think the question to ask is this - are you holding on to your dog's life for your dog's sake, or your own? If you are doing it for you, then you may be being selfish, and need to carefully consider the euthanasia option. If you believe that your dog is content, no matter how reduced his or her quality of life seems to be to you, then allowing your dog to pass away in his or her own time may be the right thing to do. A dog will simply stop eating and drinking if they have had enough of living. Hand feeding is fine (and can be essential sometimes), but when the dog decides he or she no longer wants to eat even with assistance from you, then that is the dog's decision, and you will know that the inevitable is coming. As Diana and her vet say, YOU as the owner and companion of your loyal friend for numerous years will know when the time comes to euthanize (or not as the case may be). By all means consult with your vet to ensure that your dog is not suffering. I certainly suggest that you do that. Not to do so at any stage would be terribly irresponsible. But the decision should be yours, and yours alone. Regards, Brigitte Diana,

Thank you so much for your very helpful and thoughtful comments.

Regards,
Brigitte

Nancy,

Thanks for your input also. I have heard that suggestion several times (to tally up the dog’s favorite activities, and see how many of them the dog still enjoys).

I personally am not a fan of that approach in and of itself. Some dogs seem perfectly content, even though they can no longer do most of what they used to enjoy. After all, when people get elderly, they also can no longer do many of the things they used to enjoy when they were young, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they have no, or little, quality of life.

If a dog no longer enjoys most of the things he or she used to AND seems unhappy, worried, or uncomfortable, then yes, it may be time to think about the option of euthanasia.

But a dog can be bed-bound pretty much as Diana describes above – where the dog can no longer get up by themselves and become completely incontinent of urine and faeces – but still seem content overall. In those circumstances, I believe it is perfectly valid to decide to allow nature to take its course and allow the dog to pass away without intervention.

I think the question to ask is this – are you holding on to your dog’s life for your dog’s sake, or your own? If you are doing it for you, then you may be being selfish, and need to carefully consider the euthanasia option. If you believe that your dog is content, no matter how reduced his or her quality of life seems to be to you, then allowing your dog to pass away in his or her own time may be the right thing to do.

A dog will simply stop eating and drinking if they have had enough of living. Hand feeding is fine (and can be essential sometimes), but when the dog decides he or she no longer wants to eat even with assistance from you, then that is the dog’s decision, and you will know that the inevitable is coming.

As Diana and her vet say, YOU as the owner and companion of your loyal friend for numerous years will know when the time comes to euthanize (or not as the case may be).

By all means consult with your vet to ensure that your dog is not suffering. I certainly suggest that you do that. Not to do so at any stage would be terribly irresponsible. But the decision should be yours, and yours alone.

Regards,
Brigitte

]]> By: diana http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-163774 diana Mon, 05 Apr 2010 13:39:07 +0000 http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/#comment-163774 tomorrow morning I'm going to put down my precious dog 'livvie'. It is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do and I am absolutely heartbroken and frightened at the prospect of having this control over another living thing. Obviously my fantastic vet 'Merideth' has been a beacon in many dark moments during this process. Her kindest and professional words were 'you will know when it is time'. Remember that if this is not the process you wish to proceed with, please keep your loved pet hydrated, you'll probably have to hand feed and you will have to clean up after them. When I say cleaning up after them, I mean your pet will have no control over its bowel movements and will become incontinent. Make sure you have plenty of handy paper towels to clean up and warm towels to soothe away any uncomfortable situations. As painful as it is in making life and death decisions, you must be intuitive to this wonderful soul who has lived your life with you and do what is best for them. I'm am being brave for the love of 'livvie' who has given me so much joy and I want her no pain and I will hold her until she ends. tomorrow morning I’m going to put down my precious dog ‘livvie’. It is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do and I am absolutely heartbroken and frightened at the prospect of having this control over another living thing. Obviously my fantastic vet ‘Merideth’ has been a beacon in many dark moments during this process. Her kindest and professional words were ‘you will know when it is time’. Remember that if this is not the process you wish to proceed with, please keep your loved pet hydrated, you’ll probably have to hand feed and you will have to clean up after them. When I say cleaning up after them, I mean your pet will have no control over its bowel movements and will become incontinent. Make sure you have plenty of handy paper towels to clean up and warm towels to soothe away any uncomfortable situations. As painful as it is in making life and death decisions, you must be intuitive to this wonderful soul who has lived your life with you and do what is best for them. I’m am being brave for the love of ‘livvie’ who has given me so much joy and I want her no pain and I will hold her until she ends.

]]> By: Nancy Horkey http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-128047 Nancy Horkey Sun, 23 Aug 2009 17:46:57 +0000 http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/#comment-128047 We recently had to make this painful decision. Ming, my 13 yr-11 month old SharPei had cancer. My neice in law is a vet in another town. She gave me some great adivce. "Make a list of Ming's top ten favorite activities and check how many she is still doing. Is it 7 then it might not be time, is it 3 of them, what 3 are they and is that the quality of life she need/or happy with." Ming was doing 1 or 2 at best and one of those was just sitting with us....so I had to make the appoitment that day and now she is happy and out of pain in heaven with our other male which we lost 4 years ago....so I hope this helps someone let go of their best friend. I know it is hard but a very unselfish act. We recently had to make this painful decision. Ming, my 13 yr-11 month old SharPei had cancer. My neice in law is a vet in another town. She gave me some great adivce.
“Make a list of Ming’s top ten favorite activities and check how many she is still doing. Is it 7 then it might not be time, is it 3 of them, what 3 are they and is that the quality of life she need/or happy with.” Ming was doing 1 or 2 at best and one of those was just sitting with us….so I had to make the appoitment that day and now she is happy and out of pain in heaven with our other male which we lost 4 years ago….so I hope this helps someone let go of their best friend. I know it is hard but a very unselfish act.

]]> By: Malinda http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-101395 Malinda Sat, 04 Jul 2009 20:07:16 +0000 http://healthierdogs.com/dog_care/how-to-make-the-tough-decision-to-euthanize-your-pet/#comment-101395 Thank you, My wolf dog has osteosarcoma and I do believe he is suffering dispite all efforts of pain management. It's time to let go. Thank you,
My wolf dog has osteosarcoma and I do believe he is suffering dispite all efforts of pain management. It’s time to let go.

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